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Dear Amy: My good college friend “Clara” is getting married next month.

Clara has several bridesmaids. We are all quite close.

“Sara,” another bridesmaid, has an older sister “Anne” and a younger brother, “Brett.”

In our college days, Clara, Sara, and I would socialize occasionally with Anne. We consider her a friend.

Brett was the little brother. We consider him an acquaintance.

Anne was invited to the wedding with a plus one, but RSVP’d “no,” as she is unable to attend.

In the meantime, Brett made comments expressing his desire to attend the wedding.

To be clear, Brett was NOT ever invited.

Now, Brett has apparently helped himself to his older sister Anne’s declined invite, accessed the wedding site, and RSVPed “yes” for him and a plus one!

I am shocked on behalf of Clara, who has been meticulously planning this wedding for two years! She is sweet, kind, and non-confrontational. And now she faces this insanely awkward dilemma.

Allowing Brett to help himself and a plus one to the wedding is out of the question.

My question is, who is responsible for telling him off? Clara, as she is the one in charge of the guest list? Sara, who has already talked to her brother, but probably doesn’t know that he went so far as to RSVP?

Me, because of the three of us, I have the least issue with confrontation?

Please weigh in! I need to know the most appropriate way to tell off this wedding crasher.

– The Enforcer?

Dear Enforcer: Finalizing the guest list is the bride’s job. Policing her younger brother is “Sara’s” job. Enforcing might be your job, and I’ll do the rest.

I think the best way to approach this would be to react as if “Brett” is trolling, and has appointed himself the Vince Vaughn character in this particular movie.

The bride should review the online RSVP list, and if “Anne” has responded No but RSVP’d “yes” online, she should confirm with Anne that she will not be at the wedding and ask her if it’s possible that her brother has filled out her RSVP.

If she confirms that Brett has done this, the bride should let Sara know (Sara is Brett’s other sister, who is also a bridesmaid), and confirm that Brett has not been invited to the wedding.

You might be helpful by assisting the bride in composing a simple message to Brett that is straightforward, polite, and firm. I suggest something along the lines of: “Hi, Brett, I understand that you have invited yourself and a guest to my wedding! I assume you’re just trying to prank us (haha!), but if you’re serious about this I need to remind you that any uninvited people will be asked to leave before the ceremony.”

You and one of the groom’s ushers should volunteer to be on the lookout for this uninvited guest, and quietly escort him out if he shows up.

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