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Fury at ‘Superstitious’ Reason Brother Canceled Hosting Family Wedding – Newsweek

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A Reddit user has been cheered online after sharing why they are considering withdrawing their brother’s invitation to their upcoming wedding.

The user took to the social media platform on June 9 to share their frustration and heartbreak at their brother retracting his promise to host their wedding in his backyard. The Reddit user, prompted by their hurt, has decided to move their wedding plans elsewhere and cancel their brother’s invite in the process.

The user, who goes by u/aggressive_average_7, wrote that their brother cited a superstition that hosting the wedding in his home would bring bad luck to his family.

“I love my brother and would want the best for his family and the kiddos. But right now I don’t want anything to do with him,” the Reddit user, who is based in the U.S., said. “Our family has never really been superstitious. I’m pretty tolerant of others’ belief systems, and while I don’t understand, I do respect it. But we are literally less than two months out now from our big day.”

The wedding was planned as a small, intimate gathering with 26 guests. The Reddit user had asked their brother and sister-in-law if they could host the event at their home, a request made over a year ago. The brother and his wife had welcomed the idea, insisting that it would be a meaningful occasion for their family.

However, just six weeks before the wedding, the brother informed the couple that they could no longer use the backyard. According to the user, a nanny and family friend who is also a monk had learned of the wedding plans and warned the family that hosting a sibling’s wedding would transfer good luck away from their home. With two young children to care for, the brother and his wife decided they couldn’t risk any misfortune befalling their family.

The Reddit user wrote: “And now that they are new parents to a [6-month-old] and 2-year-old, they don’t want anything to happen to them and want to give them the best chance at life they possibly can.”

Rachel Goldberg, a licensed family and marriage therapist, weighed in on the situation. “It’s an unfortunate situation, and they have every right to feel upset,” the L.A.-based therapist said. “I actually believe they are handling it fairly well, being practical about changing the venue and trying to understand their perspective at the same time.”

“It’s possible that there are other reasons, and the excuse of not being able to do it due to superstition is merely the predominant one. Perhaps after the second child has been born, the pressure just feels too much for them,” she added.

Goldberg also acknowledged the emotional impact of the sudden change in plans, and vouched for the Reddit user’s withdrawal of her brother’s wedding invite. “They definitely have a valid reason to want some space from their brother and sister-in-law right now, and they are within their rights to take that space.”

The post has been upvoted more than 5,000 times, with most readers expressing their support for the Reddit user’s decision to step back from their brother.

“Just tell him that you don’t want to bring bad luck to his house and you don’t want him to bring bad luck to your wedding,” one user said. “You are afraid some superstition you are unaware of might follow him into your wedding. It is just as a ridiculous excuse as he gave you. Just don’t share the new location or the correct time with him and just tell him that his cancellation of the location was also his cancellation on the invitation.”

Another added: “How did this not become a thing until 1.5 months before the wedding. I would want space as it sounds like your SIL’s beliefs might be on the fringes.”

Goldberg suggests that, despite the current strain between the siblings’ relationship, there is potential for reconciliation.

A table setting at a wedding reception. A Reddit user has been backed after sharing why they want to block their brother from attending their wedding.
A table setting at a wedding reception. A Reddit user has been backed after sharing why they want to block their brother from attending their wedding.
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“Given the way they wrote this, there is definitely room here for repair,” she said. “With time and understanding from both sides, the relationship can be mended.”

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